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Did couple vlogging on YouTube ruin my relationship?

Did couple vlogging on YouTube ruin my relationship?
From BBC - February 12, 2018

Two years ago, my boyfriend Jack and I started a YouTube channel uncovering what it's like to be in a gay interracial relationship.

I remember the moment that we first sat down in front of a camera and tried to make a video together.

It took hours for us to record something we were both happy with, then even longer to edit it into our debut fun and friendly vlog.

When Jack and I pressed the upload button, "OurSwirlLife" was born - and the slow demise of our relationship also began.

Our social media presence suddenly grew at a crazy speed. Soon millions of people were watching the ups and downs of our lives.

With the success came freebies - free food, free holidays - and a fair amount of money.

We'd get recognised in the street by fans who were glued to our lives.

It genuinely seemed like the dream. But it soon started to become a nightmare.

More couples than ever before are sharing their love online, whether it's through Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook or YouTube.

It often starts as a bit of fun but for a few who make money it becomes business.

We really did not expect our vlogging to blow up like it did.

It took a massive toll on our relationship.

Of course, every couple has their ups and downs, but you ca not really afford to have downtime when your relationship pays your rent.

Friends noticed we argued a lot more, we had to decline invites to things because we had to make videos, and we were always on our phones - constantly interacting with our audience when out and about.

After a year, our internet success ultimately lead to our break-up.

There were the usual recriminations, for Jack I was too bossy, too keen to direct - he said to me: "You managed to turn a relationship into a business partnership."

But we are not alone in this experience.

During filming for Newsbeat's documentary YouTube Couples: How To Stay In Love, I spoke to loads of famous couples from all over the world.

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